"Parent supports have not fully been explored, except for the occasional ‘venting group’, or the oft-spoken advice to 'take time out for yourself,'" Sher wrote. "But being a parent of a child with autism is to live in the ‘fight or flight’ mode every day." She continues:
We give 100% of our selves, 24/7, as though every moment is a crisis. Desperation drives us to find out what this thing called autism is, what causes it, and what can be done about it. When my son was born in 1994 until 2002, when I burned out on autism therapies, there was no going out for me, no time alone with spouse (much less by myself)... I resented my husband because he could go to work, my other children for the demands they made on me, and my son with autism most of all, because I didn’t know how to help him.
I had to teach myself how to go out alone or with another, and drill myself that enjoying myself away from my children was OK. Why did I think it was so selfish? Finally, I figured out that going out occasionally actually made me a better mother, not less of a mother. And it is better to give yourself permission to do good things for yourself than living in that nightmarish isolation, driven to be a crazy person by something called autism. Sher